a tough situation to be at, huh? a big YES indeed.
it is quite challenging raising children nowadays. i am sure most of you would agree with me on this. children today are rambunctious. so different when it was us. we sit in a corner and we won't speak unless we are spoken to. i was that kind of child and so it was pretty difficult dealing with a very active boy {to say the least}.
am i a disciplinarian? i think i am not. yet i think i am.
my siblings and i grew up with disciplinarian parents. that given, i knew i didn't want to completely adopt this when i raise my own children. i do want order. yes. but i didn't want to control my children or their childhood.
and i often find it good. children showing independence and willfulness. as long as they don't get hurt in the process of their exploration, i am good with that. guidance is the key and not control. but be questioned for being a parent because your child is simply being a child? is it fair?
i guess i can only shrug my shoulders and wish that people would see my son as we see him everyday. a very loving and sweet (unruly, yes) but sweet as it is. knowing that, i guess being questioned doesn't bother me that much (no one knows me better than i know myself and no one knows my son better that we, his parents, do)
and so i rest my case.
I couldn't agree more. Parents know their kids better than others do. Minsan nga lang siguro there are people who are bothered by the kids' kakulitan and kalikutan but that's just how kids are nowadays. Eto nga little girl ko can be a handful sometimes considering na girl pa siya. Hehe.
ReplyDeleteI was at a store here once and the manager told I should control my boys. They were quietly playing in the corner when another boy came in and just started the fire & was going in fitting rooms w/c the other customer got upset about & had my boys blamed for it. Also told me that there's a playground in the mall (another way of telling me to leave). It's rude enough for people to question your parenting skills let alone a stranger.
ReplyDeletethanks ann and michelle for sharing your stories. makes me feel better that i am not the only one experiencing the hardship {and rewards} of raising children.
ReplyDeletenot a mother yet - but I helped raise my pamangkins. people generally want to dip their noses into other people's businesses... but IF they cross the thin line and question how I run things in my domain, I say grab them by the b**ls :)
ReplyDeletebwahahhaha! smile na, tins :)
~bjay
hahaha bjay. :) i would probably do that if i am only bigger than they are. hehe. anyway, venting released some of the heat off and just knowing that there are others experiencing the same thing gives me the feeling of allies. hehe. bahala sila. di man ako makatapat nila, darating din ang panahon na makakakita sila ng kasing laki nila, hehe. ;)
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